Show up in Your Realness

You can show up in your realness. You bring so much more to the table than you realize. If you want to attract genuine people into your life and build more authentic relationships, you want to be your true self. It sounds cliché, but if they don’t love the real you, then you don’t need them in your life.

When I was in my teens and twenties, I was so concerned with always looking my best. I worked out because I was “bigger” for a dancer, tanned, always had freshly shaved and moisturized legs, had to have my Amber Romance or Love Spell on, kept my hair long and I was always showing off my legs in short shorts and skirts.

On the flip side, I did let people see me without makeup, hair a mess and in my comfy clothes, but not around any prospects. Even when I was dressed down, I still had to look cute. I wanted to be desired and was hoping all the time that I was going to attract a boyfriend. I wanted people in general to find me attractive. And while I may have looked the best I ever have in my life; I had the lowest self-esteem.

I rarely wear makeup anymore unless I have an event. I don’t stress about constantly needing to shave. And I cut my hair the shortest it’s ever been. I love it long too, but the convenience and funkiness are where it’s at for me right now. The thing I struggle with most body image wise is my weight right now. But I have realized that people still want to be around me and enjoy my company even if I don’t look my best. I'm not saying not to take care of yourself, but don't feel pressured to maintain appearances for others.